Patricia Kerbaugh


Patricia Kerbaugh, 69, of Ray, ND, passed away on October 31, 2022, in a Bismarck Hospital.  A memorial service will be held on Friday, Nov. 18, at 11 a.m. at the Ray Lutheran Church in Ray, ND.  Burial will be held at a later date.

Patty was born to Dorland and Anice (Flaten) Melland on March 17, 1953, In Williston ND. She was raised and attended grades 1st-8th in Wheelock, ND. She finished her high school years in Ray, ND graduating in 1971 after the Wheelock school was closed.

Patty married Dennis Kerbaugh on March 18, 1972, and they made their home in Ray, ND where they raised their 2 children, Levi born in 1977 and Marcy born in 1979.

Patty was devoted to family and friends and wanted nothing more than to see her children be happy and to succeed and to become a grandmother. Sophia Ann Hilzendeger was born on March 26th, 2016, and it was love at first sight. The bond between Grandma Patty and Sophia was strong from the first time she laid eyes on her. Patty also had a huge love for her puppies, grand puppies and grand kitty.

Patty took comfort in the little things, she loved being a mom, grandmother, a friend, and she loved spending time at the river. Patty took pride in her creativity and was extremely talented. She was well known for the artwork she produced…be it painting, woodwork, or candle making. If you were a child growing up in Ray during the 80’s and 90’s then you probably had at least one Birthday cake (if not all) created by Patty and many Graduation, Baptism and Confirmation cakes as well. One thing that is for sure is that she mastered the art of making slushburgers. Many people have tried to make Patty’s slushburgers and have not succeeded. It is now up to Levi and Marcy to master.

While she lived under a cloud of heart disease throughout most of her life, her strength and dedication to living for as long as she could was evident. She surprised every Doctor that she ever met. She was the strongest most determined woman that we have ever met. Patty was determined to do whatever she could to be able to continue to watch her children and grandchild grow up for as long as possible.

Being there for others was a main theme in Patty’s life and she will be remembered for the love she shared, her radiant smile, and her quickness to laugh. She was first in line to help create a celebration and made sure no one left hungry.

Patty is survived by her son Levi, daughter, Marcy (Daniel) Hilzendeger, granddaughter Sophia, sisters, Rhonda (Keith) Daniel and family, Donna Peterson and family and stepbrother Todd (Dana) Melland.

Patty is preceded in death by her parents Dorland and Anice Melland. Grandparents Carl and Margaret Melland and Tosten and Mattie Flatten.




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My heart is with you Marcy. Losing our moms is the hardest thing ever. She was always present in your life and Sophia had the honor to know her grandma. RIP Patty.

Marcy & Levi,
I am so sorry to hear about your Mom passing. I thought she was a very strong and upbeat friend. Loved her Cakes! And her painting skills were superior too. We had so much fun as friends over many years, like traveling in Jim’s truck to surprise visit Patty, Dennis and Levi in Sandpoint, ID, game nights with friends and a real long night of fondue at there kitchen table. Good memories, wonderful lady. My family sends our sympathies

Marcy and Levi, cannot express enough how sad I am for you. Your mom was such a fighter and good beyond belief. So many memories and would love to share with you someday. Just know she will be missed by many and so glad I got to see her last month. Special day for me. ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️

Levi, Marcy and the entire family, You are in my thoughts and prayers. Everyone is soooooo right, Patty fought a hard fight, and accomplished so much. She and Dennis lived next door to my mom and dad for many years. They absolutely thought the world of you kids when you were little and growing up. Dad loved it when you both would knock on the door and ask “Can Leslie come out and play?” You would visit dad when he was working in the garage and he so loved it. I remember him telling me, “I would tell Marcy not to get behind the pick up.” He would always carefully look before he backed out of the garage. You both brought joy and lots of smiles to my parents. Patty was oh so talented. I bought a piece of her crafts during Grain Palace Days one year. Precious keepsake. Dennis was my classmate. I’ll bet he was at Heaven’s door ready to greet her as she went Home. My thoughts and prayers are there with you this week and in the days ahead. Wish I could have been there for the funeral. The picture with the obituary is just beautiful. That is exactly how I want to remember her. Sending Hugs and Much Love.

My sincere condolences to the entire family in the great loss of my friend, Patty. Not only did she live near us on the farm, but I attended school & church with Patty in Wheelock as well as in Ray. See those big eyes and beautiful smile? Those are the ones I remember well on the school bus ride to Ray. She was always a shy, quiet little girl ready to laugh at a moments notice. Always such a precious individual. I was Dennis Kerbaugh’’s classmate & I was so happy to hear they were dating and had gotten married. I’m so very sorry for her lengthy health problems and for her early death. May you find comfort and peace in God’s Peace that passes all understanding.

I have never forgotten that sweet, little girl at church and on our buses to Wheelock and Ray schools. God be with you and your family.

Marcy and Levi: I was so sad to hear about your mom. We made some really fun memories. Hugs and prayers.