Patricia Ann Wilke


Patricia Ann Fitzgerald Wilke passed away peacefully at Edgewood Memory Care Unit with her family by her side on February 14, 2024.  A Mass of Christian Burial will be held at 10:00 am on Monday, February 19, 2024 at the Pro-Cathedral of St Mary Bismarck. Burial will be held at St. Mary’s Cemetery in the spring.


Visitation will be held from 5:00 to 7:00 pm on Sunday, February 18, 2024 at Bismarck Funeral Home with a Rosary/Vigil Service at 6:00 pm. Visitation will continue at the church one hour prior to the service.


Patricia was born in Fargo ND on July 28, 1942, to Edward and Hulda (Brandt) Fitzgerald. She attended Sabin Elementary School from 1st to 7th grade and then attended Moorhead Public School where she graduated in 1960. After high school, Pat attended Moorhead State College, worked at Hornbacher’s Foods, and ran for Miss Moorhead.


Pat married Lloyd Wilke on June 13, 1964. They lived and worked in Moorhead while Lloyd was finishing school at Moorhead State College. Their first son, Paul, was born on June 10, 1965. Paul was born with Down Syndrome at a time when not a lot was known about it, but Pat embraced this challenge and worked with Paul to help him reach all the milestones other kids would. Pat and Lloyd moved to Starkweather in 1965 where Lloyd started his teaching career. While there, Matthew was born in 1967 in Devils Lake. Lloyd’s next teaching job brought them to Alvarado, Minnesota, where Cynthia was born in 1968.  Pat was a devoted mom to her 3 young kids, and she enjoyed the small-town life and the fellowship and connections that came with it. She was a great friend, baker, cook, and hostess to anyone who stopped to visit.  Alvarado became a family and lasting friendships were made.  Pat often talked about how the whole town loved Paul and was so good to him and the whole family.


When the kids were school age Pat began work doing books for the Cenex Station in Alvarado and Warren, Minnesota. She was later hired at Peoples State Bank in Warren as a teller and secretary to the president of the bank and any other job that needed to be done. More friendships were made in Warren through her work and where Paul attended school, and also her faith was grown and another community of friends was made through the church the family attended, St. Joseph’s in Oslo, Minnesota.


Pat retired in 2005, and after 37 years of great memories and friendships in the Alvarado area, Pat and Lloyd moved to Bismarck, North Dakota to be near their sons, Paul and Matt, daughter-in-law Kim, and grandson, Sam. Pat couldn’t sit still for too long and so worked in the kitchen at Bismarck Public Schools for 5 years.  Lloyd and Pat traveled many times a year to Ohio to visit Cindy and John and their girls and enjoyed helping on their farm and attending the girls’ sporting events, school programs, and graduations.  Other things Pat enjoyed were playing cards (Pinochle), bingo at the Eagles Club and going to the casino.  Talking to anyone and making them feel special was a gift she had. Pat would go out of her way to say hi to people in church, a family with a baby or young kids, the check-out person who looked like they needed a compliment and smile, or an older person who needed a little conversation.  Another gift of Pat’s was hosting gatherings.  She enjoyed having people over for coffee and cookies as well as dinners. She said that is why she got good dishes, to use them!


She is survived by her husband Lloyd, son Matthew (Kim) Wilke, grandson Sam (Steph) Wilke, daughter Cynthia (John) Albert granddaughters Caitlin, (Joe) McGee, Abby (Andrew) McSurley, Emma Albert, and Ava Albert.


She is preceded in death by her parents Ed and Hulda Fitzgerald, and her siblings, Ronnie, Kathryn, Eugene, Janice, Janet, and Diane, and also her son Paul.


In lieu of flowers, please send memorials to Designer Genes; PO Box 515; Bismarck, ND 58502-0515. Many thanks to the staff of Edgewood Memory Care in Mandan. The care and patience they showed Pat was exceptional.


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So sorry for the loss of your Mother and wife. Your family is in our hearts and in our prayers. Pat was just like a Mom to me… giving a smile or a little discipline when Cindy and I caused trouble. She will be greatly missed but shining in her new spirit with Jesus!!!

So sorry to hear of Pats passing. She was such a dear sweet woman! I truly enjoyed visiting with her over the years! May she rest in the arms of Jesus for all eternity. Please share my sorrow and prayers with the rest of her family

So sad & sorry to hear of Pat’s passing. She was such a sweet lady. We had such a great conversation, relaxing, at the last party at Seline’s.
Our sympathies to Lloyd & everyone who loved her.💕

Dear Lloyd and family, our deepest condolences at the passing of Pat. We got to know you & Pat thru Designers Genes with Paul & our son Jason becoming friends thru activities. Wonderful memories of conversations while we watched our sons enjoying activities. May your wonderful memories bring comfort and God’s love comfort you. 🙏🏻🙏🏻

I am so sorry for your loss Matthew and Cindy. I have many memories of Pat but the most memorable was when I ran into her in Warren when I was in my mid twenties and during our conversation, I told her I was considering a vocation as a nun. You should have seen the look on her face! It was one of great surprise as you can imagine. God be with your families.

I remember when pat and lloyd use to.come and watch me bowl at ten spot all.the time she and my mom.wluld always go out for coffee all the time I’m sorry for your loss lloyd chris larson

I remember pat would always come and get me and my mom and take us over to see Paul at the group home in Mandan I’m sorry for your loss matt and kim.and Samuel and Cindy thinking about you guys right now

I remember when pat and lloyd would always come to.ten spot to watch me and paul.bowl at ten spot I will always remember pat was like a mom to.me I will always remember her laugh and smile she would alwayssaynto.me never give up.keep trying to get thoses strikes and spares in bowling

I’m sorry for loss lloyd kim. And matt Samuel and cindy thinking about you guys right now

Lloyd and matt and kim and sameul.and Cindy sorry for your loss thinking about you guys right now pat was like a mom to me I always remember her laugh and smile she would always sat to.me never give up keep trying to thoses strikes and spares in bowling

Deepest Sympathy to the Wilke family.I had the honor of working with Pat at BHS. she was a wonderful lady. always a smile. I truly enjoyed visiting with her. she will be missed.

Lloyd and family my deepest to you and family.
Jan Greer

Lloyd and family – My sincere sympathy to your family. It was such a delight knowing Pat, she had a smile on her face, a spring to her step and laughter wherever she went. A wonderful neighbor, friend and caretaker, she was the best!
She was a blessing to many people and I am thankful for having her in my life.

Very sorry to read of Pat’s passing. She was a lovely lady and I am grateful I had the privilege of knowing her as a friend and neighbor. May God bless her memory. Our sympathy to you, Lloyd, and your family

Kim.and matt and Samuel and lloyd im.glad we got to.know pat she was such a good person mom grand mother rest in peace pat