Jay Gruebele


Jay Gruebele, 57, of Bismarck, passed away October 20, 2022.

A Funeral Service will be held at 11:00 AM on Tuesday, October 25, 2022, at Legacy United Methodist Church, Bismarck, ND. Burial will follow at the Fairview Cemetery, Bismarck. Family will be receiving friends one hour prior to the service.  A livestream of the service will be available on the church website.

Jay Darren Gruebele was born July 21, 1965, to Laurence and Doris Gruebele.  He lived most of his life in Bismarck. Growing up, Jay enjoyed spending time with his family and friends. His hobbies included riding his unicycle, playing his trumpet, and fixing up old cars. Jay also spent many hours working at the family grocery store.

Jay’s daughter, Jayla, was his greatest joy.  In Jayla’s childhood, one of their favorite things to do was play with Jay’s K9 partner, Justice.  As Jayla grew, Jay loved watching her play basketball, and frequently reminded her to always give 110 percent.  Jay was so proud of her academic accomplishments and the beautiful woman she grew to be.

Blessed are the Peacemakers.  Jay was a peacemaker all of his professional life.  He started his career in law enforcement with the Jamestown Police Department where he was Jamestown’s first K9 handler.  After Jamestown, Jay worked briefly in Minneapolis, and then returned home to Bismarck and began work at the Mandan Police Department. He especially liked his time in investigations.  In 2014, Jay accepted a Captain’s position with the Morton County Sheriff’s Office, and later he moved to the Morton County State’s Attorney’s Office.  A highlight of Jay’s career was attending the FBI National Academy in 2018.

In addition to his law enforcement career, Jay started a successful trucking company after moving back to Bismarck.  At the peak of the business, the company ran five trucks. Most Saturdays, Jay could be found tinkering on one of his trucks. When he wasn’t busy with his business, Jay loved to cruise on his Harley Davidson motorcycle.

Jay and Lisa started building their life together in 2011 and married in 2016.  Traveling was one of their favorite pastimes.  They also enjoyed bluegrass concerts and the Bismarck Mandan Symphony Orchestra.  Many summer evenings Jay and Lisa would take their beloved rescue dog Lucy to Harmon Lake or a boat ramp along the Missouri River to swim.

Jay had a “Dad Joke” sense of humor, and loved to make those close to him laugh even if it included an eye roll. He was quick to lend a helping hand, and was an all-around bright light to everyone around him.  Jay’s life calling was to shield those he loved and his community from the darkness in this world.

Jay is survived by his daughter Jayla Cote (Alexander) and their daughter Harper Rae; his wife Lisa and their Lucy; his parents Laurence and Doris Gruebele; his sister Cindy Ibach (Fred); multiple nephews and nieces; and his countless brothers and sisters in blue.

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Lisa, I am sorry to hear about Jay. I know he was your number one fan and supporter.

I understand this is a going to be an confusing and extremely difficult time for your family. I don’t know what exactly to say to you to make it better, because it won’t. I just want you to know we are here for any of you anytime if need an ear, or a huge, loving hug. Time goes by too quickly, and we don’t realize the people we love, cherish, and care about outside our arms reach are struggling inside. Jay will always be in our hearts with only but the absolute fondest of memories of the kind, hard working and loving guy he was.

Lisa, I am sending prayer to you. I hope you can find moments of peace in the days ahead.

Cindy and family,
I am so sorry, my deepest sympathies on the loss of your brother. Praying for strength and comfort.
Adele Gabriel

Oh Lisa, my heart is just breaking for you. All my thoughts and prayers are with you in this excruciating time. I was blessed to have met Jay this summer and was struck by his kind heart and generous laughter. We are all here for you. You are not alone❤️

So sorry for your loss. I had the honor and privilege of working with Jay over the years in Law Enforcement. He was a mentor to many and will be missed. Rest In Peace brother

Beautiful words about Jay! He was such a joy to be around and I loved seeing the love between you 2! ❤️ May he Rest In Peace and prayers and comfort for Lisa, Jayla and the rest of the family. 💕

My thoughts and prayers are with you during this difficult time!

We are sorry to hear about the loss of Jay. Thoughts and prayers to the family.

Both Clay and I are so sorry for your loss. Our thoughts and prayers are with you!

I’m so sorry for your loss Lee. My thoughts and prayers are sent for you and your family. May you find comfort and peace through the grace of God during this very difficult time.

Dear Larry and Doris, Cindy and Fred,
We were so saddened to learn of Jay’s passing. We wish we could have been there for his memorial service.
We knew Jay as a teenager, when he was an employee, friend, and neighbor. Though it has been many years since we have seen Jay, we remember how conscientious, hardworking, and giving he was. After we moved to Seattle in 1991, we were kept informed of the Gruebele family news by the annual Christmas cards we exchanged with Doris.
Our sympathy card to Larry and Doris was returned to us, so I am writing here to let you all know that we grieve with you, and that we will keep Jay’s memory in a special place in our hearts.
Hugs and love,
Karen and Howard Van Bruggen